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“Attack of the gloves!”


Daddy, my husband, puts on grilling gloves scaring Sunshine, our new puppy soon to be one. In the video you can see she runs to me for protection. This is highly unusual for Sunshine. Sunshine often explores anything in her path. She attacks our other dog Sandy while dragging her along for many adventures. That… Continue reading “Attack of the gloves!”

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Is it better to do a wrong thing than to ignore the right thing we suppose to do?


Is it better to do a wrong thing,                                                                                              … Continue reading Is it better to do a wrong thing than to ignore the right thing we suppose to do?

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SANDRA LYNN MALLO ADCOCK DPH M.S.M.PERSONAL LEADERSHIP PORTFOLIOMGT677 LEADING, EMPOWERING, AND MOTIVATING OTHERSDR. KELLYANN BERUBE KOWALSKITABLE OF CONTENTSINTRODUCTION……………..1-4 PERSONAL PHILOSOPHY..5-7PERSONAL LEADERSHIP ATTACHMENT PLAN…….8-10LEADERSHIP LEGACY……..11SUMMARY AND CONLUSIONS………………………..12APPENDIX…SWOT MATRIX WILL BE AS ATTACJMENTiINTRODUCTION“You can bring a horse to water but you can’t make it drink!” Have you heard this axiom? Do you agree with the precept of the metaphor? Disagree or have a different analysis? Which of these two words would you pick to describe yourself given a choice between only creative and conformist? I plugged in the allegory and interpretation resulting in the recognizable conformist showing up. Revelations of forcing events is a bad idea that doesn’t work.Did you describe yourself with the word creative or agree with most of the recognizable conformists? How could there be another slant on this? Fasten your seat belts and get ready to step in to another mind that might have a different rate of deliver of electric impulses from synapse to synapse in the brain due to a higher or lower concentration of glucose dependent on the dopamine, norepinephrine, epinephrine, glutamate, gamma-amino butyric acid and theother neurotransmitters. The last sentence is one hypothesis for the deviation in data ending with the slant on this metaphor but there are too many variables to account for in this scenario. Sandra Lynn Mallo Adcock’s mother and family always said Sandra was Sandra after all.A slant of giving the horse an IV was a simple solution to a refusal on the beast’s part. Then this is no longer a metaphor you argue? Wait a moment! What this represents to me in “parable speak’ is people give up too easy. I actually had this conversation of late.Poetry is an art I dabbled in the last five years for some therapeutic value. Stephen NowickI and Marshall Duke wrote a book Helping the Child Who Doesn’t Fit In in which they coined the phrase dyssemia describing children that had trouble deciphering body language.1Learning about this and reading the book inspired me to write the poem posted below. Hopefully it allows you further glimpses of my thought process occurring forever turning over under top to left ear then right eye.Dyssemic SocietyOur OUR Society is going- the wrong way today.Do we say what we mean? Do we mean what we say?We have so much more,Cell phones, cars, computers, cards for the atm. We have more things to give,But cannot seem to live.As a child,I was seldom idle.This did cause few to glimpse me with guile,Yet, this never seemed to stop me from running miles.Blessed to have my parents,For they knew children’s rants,Perfect they were not,A safe bet for me, I am thankful for what I got.Society says be yourself, But you must do it this way. Speak your mind,But always be kind.Everyone is not the same,We must accept them.But, we will put them,In this special pen to meet their needs.Be innovative.Be motivated.No boat rocking. No socking it to um.2Find one thing to focus on,And do it good.No, not that focused.You have to just right and give others a break.You need to be right,Search for the truth to get along.Then it is wrong,To be right and have to play get along.Does anyone see the complexity,Of this ridiculousness?In the process of teaching one that is inflexible, To be flexible by being inflexible?Is communication being imprecise,The responsibility of most society?The person or child that really does see all?Or the society that says this is not right or cannot comprehend what the other sees?Society says a child or person can’t, This person or child knows can. Seems that SocietyHas a Dyssemic Condition to me.Now imagine,One that doesn’t know,The how or why,Behind his or her eye in the mind.Then one day Society,Says no this is the way.Society’s Dyssemic Condition,Often leads some to personal destruction and then blames it on personal dysfunction.Are you ready to accompany me on my exploration of personal leadership? Did you fasten your seat belt? Let me thank you for your time you are taking to examine another person’s thoughts and perceptions about leadership on a personal and vocational/professional level as it relates to this management course.Concepts to be inspected will be from the textbook Leadership Theory, Application & Skill Development. The Big Five which is a cluster of personality classifications to help zero in3on management styles impacted on things within the clusters like communication. How to motivate, lead with and apply types of power in specified events and when participatory decision making with teams can be a drawback are some examples of things to mull over. Skill Assessment and Self-Assessment Exercises have been assigned as part of this examination process and the results will be discussed or referenced in an appendix.Then nature of an organization’s culture and impression it can have on innovation is important. I will explain how this made me decide to withdraw going with a one man band show. I will wind up an explanation of my belief due to experiences in the end.Throughout the class I have voiced a concern for the use of psychology in business. Putting a pretty face on politics concerns me. I see no way of legitimizing this process in an organization or justifying it. By the very process one person or party may lose generating negative feelings which can become engrained in the culture which is a powerful monster for good and bad.I plan to expound on my distaste for having an ethics matrix to make decision and if my business to be prospers I plan never to use these guides on instruments.Classmates quotes from discussions and/or IGD may be used in this paper. Outside articles will be peppered in to break up the boredom. I hope this journey finds you with another view or concept to consider in the future as I have taken away from this course. It has been an extremely pleasant surprise to my expectations. My classmates and instructor have paraded their very “business soul” and it has been an honor to walk with them this semester.4PERSONAL PHILOSPHYHere is my rewording of the textbook definition during the course work. “In a business or organization the function is to obtain results through the people following the leader’s ability to respond to stimuli in the environment occupied by the organization to obtain organizational objectives. If change is not needed, as interaction via interpersonal between the leaders and followers suggest, then a leader should comprehend this and reward behaviors that are in the best interests of the organization.”A few factors directly dramatically shape my personal philosophy on leadership. A full wide range of these dimensional variables appear following the end of this sentence.Υ INDIVIDUAL BELIEFS, VALUES, AND EXPERENICES ∏ BELIEFS∈ OF TRADITIONAL JUDEO-CHRISTIAN HERRITAGE∈ MEMBER SOUTHERN BAPTIST DENOMINA TION∈ FAMILY VERSED IN FREEDOMS OF COUNTRY∈ FEEL BILL OF RIGHTS FOUNDATION ON BUSINESS RELATIONS AND CULTURE∈ LIVE BY LUKEWARM PRINCIPLE∈ BELIVE WITH MY HEART IN SOLE IF FOLLOW THE GOLDEN RULE IN INTERACTIONS WITH OTHERS ON PERSONAL AND BUSINESS MATTERS YOU WILL NOT FAIL∈ REALIZE AGE DICTATES REFLECTION AND STANCE ON THESE THINGS BECAUSE WHEN I WAS YOUNGER I INVISIONED A CORPORATE POSITION WITH THE TRIMMINGS BUT WITH HISTORY LOOK UPON SOME ASPECTS WITH DISDIAN∈ BELIEVE IN RESPECTING ELDERSΥ WANTS AND GOAL ∏ WANTS∈ TRA VEL∈ IMPROVED PERSONAL RELA TIONSHIPS∈ DECREASE IN SOME ENGT AGLEMNTS∈ MODEST INCOME5∈ TO MAKE SURE MY PATH FOLLOWED IS ONE GOD SET FOR ME AND I HAVE FOLLOWED HIM WELL∈ THAT AS A PARENT I HAVE DONE MY BEST∏ GOALS∈ EDUCATIONAL FINISH THIS CLASS WITH A B∈ EDUCATIONAL SKILLS TO AQUIRE∪ DESKTOP PUBLISHING∪ WEB DEVELOPMENT∪ MORE WRITING AND JOURNALISM SKILLS∪ BRUSH UP ON BUSINESS SKILLS∈ PERSONAL∪ END OF 3-12 WORK OUT 3 DAYS WEEK∪ MASTERED PREFERRED RELAXATION∪ ALL ITEMS IN STORAGE AND GARAGEFULLY INTEGRATED INTO ANDORGANIZED AT NEW HOUSE ∈ CAREER/BUSINESS∪ END 2014 REFRAMING RESOURCES WILL BE IN THE BLACK ON ALL EXPENSES SUPPORTING ME WITH A SALARY OF $45K/YEAR∪ R&RREACHES50%OFALLOK SPECIAL EDUCATION PROFESSIONALS AND 25% VERSED IN 25% OF EVERYTHING I KNOW∪ MY PRESENCE IN THE MARKET WILL HAVE SPURRED THE OKLAHOMA STATE LEGISLATURE TO INACT REFORM MAKING ALL AGENCIES MORE ACCOUNTABLE FOR AND TO THE DISABLED OR DIFFERENTLY ABLED COMMUNITY.Υ FEEDBACK FROM PROFESSIONALS/MENTORS/OTHERS ∏ I KEEP IN TOUCH WITH A NUMBER OF THESE AND CARRY ON DISCUSSINONS∈ MUTUAL RESPECT ALLOWS FOR FEEDBACK∈ A CONTIOUES IMPROVEMENT PROGRAMEXISTS WITHIN MYSELF TO IMPROVE AS A PERSON, CHRISTIAN, IN EDUCATION AND AS MOTHER/WIFE/FRIEND/STRANGER OR RESPONSIBLE MEMBER OF SOCIETYΥ ROLE LEADERSHIP PLAYS IN MY LIFE – IS TO BRING ALL THIS TOGETHER TO PERFORM THESE FUNCTIONS I HA VE TO AND DESIRE6Υ STRENGTHS /WEAKNESS AND HOW TO LOOK AT THREATS /OPPOURTUNTIES ( SEE APPENDIX)Υ TAKE ON SELF-ASSESSMENTS AND SKILL DEVELOPMENT EXERCISES IN BOOK ASSIGNED(SEE APPENDICES)Υ LEADERSHIP COMPETENCY SKILLLS∏ EDUCA TION∏ PERSONALITY∏ WORK EXPERINCE∏ V ARIETY OF WORK∏ NON PROFIT VOLUNTEER V ARIETY ANDLONGEVITY EXPEREINCE∏ VARIETY OF PEOPLE ACROSS WIDE SPECTRUMCULTURE FROM DOCTORS TO HOMELESS ANDTEACHERS TO WIDE SPECTRUM OF DISABLED∏ THOSE NOTED FROM THE EXERCISES ASSIGNEDSEE APPENDICIES∏ RESEARCH ABILITY AND KNACK FOR FINDINGINFORMA TIONTwo Bible verses I keep in mind when dealing with people besides The Golden Rule are Matthew 25:15 and Romans 2:1. The first talks about how each person is blessed with various talents. The second one reminds me that when tempted to judge others it is wise to look at myself or take a self-inventory. All of the rest of the things stated are important because I feel they are the variables that drive and form my personality that roles into how I lead.Leadership to me is the bundle of these factors coming together when I am in charge of directing, guiding or teaching either in work, parenting, in general as a Christian and or volunteer work whatever the task is. What role leadership plays in my life goes from; parenting, as a pharmacist helping a patient with education on their medication and possible interactions and a part of his/her health team member, in the work role besides that task there is leading others and management roles as the book said being an example to others, making sure the area I am in charge of runs as it should, and in the future because of the experience I have had working and as a customer I will launch a business.7PERSONAL LEADERSHIP DEVLOPMENT PLANGetting back to the course addressing what the exercises, readings, and text information can be used to fine tune my personal leadership development and action plan. The appendices explain my interpretation thoroughly in my opinion. I have expressed my opposition with reasons for opting out of some of the assignments. Skill Development 2.1 is the one that I chose to exclude.Self-Assessment Exercise reveled over all my potential for management was on the high end. A lack of drive name Surgency and Agreeable could be things to work on. I put in my profiles at a time where I was beginning my professional career and now. I think this shows how age and time change people in general some call it wisdom but a simple term I have heard is “the school of hard knocks,” references learning from experiences.You can review my final thoughts on each exercise. Subscribing to the Big Five and personality testing is a failure and a dependence on what I consider to be a flawed science and a profession with serious ethical considerations that needs to clean up their act. Now this refers mostly to personality testing. Relying on case histories and principles history has taught us would be a better way of looking at organizations. Our country stood up and wrote a document that unveils a script for how to treat people like equal and fair. That said throwing all of this out the window would be a completely egotistical aggressive act.Examining Theory X versus Theory Y taught me there is a time that one must exert a coercive power. It was pleasant to find out that these instruments showed I leaned to participatory, delegation and as I stated in the previous section and paragraph fair and equal. I8do not have a need for power. However, I am not afraid to make a decision the situation demands this.My need for achievement and motivation based on this can reflect self-centeredness. This contradicts the assessments that show I can delegate and favor participatory styles of leading.Disagreeing already with the idea of how the authors can make politics an official skill to develop, it is not surprising this is something I need to work on from the information on the exercises. Networking scores were just above political skills in the exercises. It is very hard for me to ask people for things. It goes against my basic conceptions.I am a good listener according to these assessments. Then it going right on to whether I am on the in or out group lands me just inside the fence of the in group. I stated and know that it shouldn’t be but my respect for a person sometimes clouds my ability to want to be in or out. It will not keep from performing my duties or job correctly.Being a team player currently has low appeal for me. Corporations and small business I have worked for had a two faced culture with many of the employees and management. The interaction I have had with those charged with connecting tax payer supported groups and government agencies designed to help those in need reveals a monstrous bureaucracy that should be cut back by trimming or killing.A pleasant surprise was finding out I have Transformational Leadership qualities. Actually I have characteristics of a Charismatic and Transformational but think the former is more accurate than the other. This will come in handy when I form and build my business.Negotiating skills, understanding basic needs and how motivation is met are things I can take away from this course. I think the research done in these areas is spot on. God said9“Feed my Sheep.” Studies have shown that children under nourished learn poorly. If the basics aren’t met first there will be no going anywhere else. Understanding people past this is important.YEARS PERSONAL BASIC GOALSSTEPSOVERALLL ORGANIZA TIONREFRAMING RESOURCES START UPBASIC GOALSSTEPSACTION PLAN15 10Relaxation skillsTanner in two classes Vo-TechBill and I time to work on relationship and communicationPersonal exercise/BibleStudy Family /FriendsExercise ProgramNo back tension Balanced work/lifeRe-evaluate Tanner career job pathContinued Re-Eval Community PersonalResourcesPre-Retirement Set Travel bucket listReassess Tanner supports/trust fundCommunication with all Planning ConsultationContinual Re-accessOpen or launch 1/1/14Reach 50% Special Ed Teachers 25% Resource Info DispersedBusiness plan writtenSBA Innovative GrantUse all research info/education work skills/relationshipsget vo-rehab pay for trainingReached 50%Resource Info Dispersed75 % Teachers reached 25% Ped/Primary CareContinue Reassess Always be willing to pack in if not effective Stay in touch God Seek guidanceReached 100%Teachers50% Ped and PrimaryCare Providers have Health Lit Info needMore of 5 year Expanding onOpp when appear10LEADERSHIP LEGACYWhat do I want to be remembered for as a leader in the professional and personal arenas of my life? Do I want or care about being remembered? Why should I care about this? If I care what are the things that are worth thinking about what other people think in the future about my past? What relevance or manifestation does this relate to my leadership skills and ability in the present? Is this workout futile because of the nature of pride and sinful thoughts that center near this line of investigation?On the high road, if I were to answer any of the questions above positively, I think acting as the leader God intended would be what I hope I had done. Exiting this world with the knowledge I had accomplished this getting out his message would be thrilling for me. If my convictions are true, then building a business model to help the most vulnerable populations in society that was successful within the ethical and moral teachings laid out as I understand them would be of value to show for my time on this Earth but more than that the glory should be his and others.Personally, I want my son to remember me in the loving sense. Yet, if this is not possible because I have had to be the one to play more of a preparatory role in helping him to have a life he would be happiest with, then that is okay. Then my legacy is represented by him being independent enough to stay in our house where he can have choices of what pets to have, ability to go to the movies and actives he enjoys like being on his computer with internet access. This life is nonexistent in most group home situations.11SUMMARY AND CONCLUSIONSIs there anything new under the sun? Some will say no others will argue technology advancements are. Proponents of the alien visitors to our ancient world and as either the inspiration fo[contact-form subject='[Ollamok%26#039;s Uncommon Common Sense’][contact-field label='Name' type='name' required='1'/][contact-field label='Email' type='email' required='1'/][contact-field label='Website' type='url'/][contact-field label='Comment' type='textarea' required='1'/][/contact-form]r the building of the different pyramid styles or builder themselves disagree about the technology argument.I think society does have a DYSSEMIC CONDITION of wanting people and culture to be conformist. Basing business on a specific science that purports to have ethics but when confronted evades the issue is problematic to me.Facebook’s leader in the book and case is a people person and has built a culture great for people to work in where one would think ethics would prosper. This same corporation has been pulled on the carpet for privacy decision guide makes about as much sense as leaving a two year old toddler in an unfenced back yard to play alone. People have to have a basic moral/ethics/value system in place or taught to them in order to make decisions of this nature. A policy statement is a must if for nothing else than a person to know what can and can’t do in an organization. If an employee (member of your organization) has no moral compass then teach him/her the basics. If somebody has to use an ethics matrix then it obvious to me they have no basics. What are you or I going to do if it this person represents us and is in a compromising spot where a snap decision has to be made without a handy dandy ethics matrix decision?12i


This is a paper I did in a course at Dartmouth when I was considering an Organizational Leadership Gradruate Certificate but family obligations dictated otherwise

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Autism Christmas


This was an extremely nice Christmas.   It is typical for some with autism or other special needs to act as if Christmas is no different from any other day.

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he sat as far away from people as he could showing little need for gifts or Christmas.

Don’t get me wrong he is a blessing.  He is different. Not all people are alike.  Yet, most people understand seeing a person get a person a gift, especially at Christmas that he/she does indeed love.

This year my joy has multiplied and a little of hating and dreading the Christmas  Season has been erased.